A difficult situation
Submitted by kiowas on October 12 2001 20:05:49
| Im in a situation that I have dreaded for years. I guess it had to happen some day, but I prayed it never would. If you're like me, and you dont feel any type of attraction to women, then your parents will eventually begin to wonder where all the girlfriends are and why you arent dating or married. Well, the day has finally come. She has suspected me for some time, and finally told me she was afraid I was gay. Obviously, Im not gay (at least not in the traditional sense), but I will never have girlfriends just the same. I denied it of course (she went further and misinterpreted the closeness of my relationship with a certain friend, thinking there is something between me and him which there definitely isnt). But she continues to hold that beleif, and I find myself in the situation of being constantly reminded of her fears. To make matters worse, she has a deeply ingrained hatred of gays, to the point where she just cant stand being around one. She is deeply religous and views gays as the spawn of satan. So, here I am...having just recently made peace with myself, and gotten involved in activities that matter to me...having only in the last months come to fully accept my nature and no longer view myself as a monster, and now I have to deal with my mom (whom I love probably more than anyone in the world) thinking I am a monster (although she doesnt have a clue how bad a monster I am), and...it just becomes too much to handle. I dont know what to do...this will probably go on forever and I cant handle it. Anyways...my question is....how have those among you with parents who are deeply religious and hostile towards gays dealt with explaining your orientation or explaining why you have no girlfriends and arent married, etc.? |
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