Re: Unlucky in love
Submitted by John Doe on November 13 2001 14:26:17
In reply to Unlucky in love submitted by Gabe on November 13 2001 13:40:17
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Are you just out to find a girl, screw her of a month or two and then drop her. If so that would be sinful. However, if you are sincerely trying to find the right woman, and have not succeded, where is the sin? Is the problem that you are not really attracted to women, but go out with them because it is the socially accepted thing to do? Because you wish to cover up any suspicions of your BL/GL (I don't think you have stated which you are attracted to). In that case you might be just "using" the girl in question. However, if it is a hope that by finding the right girl of an appropriate age, that these desires of yours will go away and that you can lead a normal life, I don't think it is sinful, but also I don't think it will be successful. That is what I did. I think I became more in love with the idea of being married than I was actually in love with the woman I married. We had a reasonable good marriage though. Certianly very far from passionate, but not acrimonious. Sort of like an "old folks" marriage even though we were not that old. For both of us I think our primary relationship was with our children, not with eachother. The desires I had never went away though, and when she found out about them, well the shit hit the fan and my life fell apart. Was I wrong to keep it from her all those years, was that sinful? i don't know. I do know she would have left me as soon as she found out, and if that happened early in our relationship, three of the most wonderful human beings on the face of this earth would not exist today. Unfortuanately, now I only get to see those 3 on every other weekend and wednesdays for dinner. |
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