Re: extended version
Submitted by sally on April 8 2002 13:36:20
In reply to extended version submitted by Splash! on April 8 2002 02:29:19
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Splash, I'm sorry for calling you shallow, Splash. That wasn't nice of me. I don't even know you and from what I do know, you don't really seem shallow. In fact, if I'd really have thought you were shallow, I wouldn't have bothered saying anything. I thought you were deep enough that my calling you shallow would bother you. =0) But I shouldn't have done it. Please forgive me. Again I have to say that you blow me away with your perception of things, though. Well, I guess I don't have to say it but I want to say it. I don't want to let you get away with this. You want a beautiful woman and you want a woman with no baggage. I think you should concentrate on your own baggage and forget beauty all together. My friend the spanker used to say, "Give me a Christian woman with no chin hair and I'll be ever so happy, and the chin hair is optional." He had one criteria for his wife. She must love God (and share his understanding of God-- he would not have married a Charismatic). If you don't want a wife, Splash, I am not the one to tell you that you are wrong. That is your business. Only you and God know. My objection is not to your being single but to what I believe is your idea that you really want to be married but God has denied you by making you so you can only be attracted to certain women and then not given you such a woman. From what you've said on this site it seems that your singleness is a result of your choice and is not evidence that God's will is for you to remain single. I withheld the lecture earlier on your living with a woman you weren't married to, but, Splash, I am amazed that you would live with this woman and go to church with her and think you'd get away with that! What on earth kind of church did you go to? Didn't they tell you what you were doing was wrong? You have made some really horrible choices in your life, you have disobeyed God, and now I don't believe you are right to blame God for your singleness. But I don't want to end on such a depressing note. The good news is that even when we have made horrible choices, God delights in giving us good things. He will give us the desires of our hearts when we delight ourselves in him. He only withholds our desires when our desires are not good for us. He never withholds things from us for one minute longer than he has to in order to train us properly. And if you truly want a wife to love and be loved by, he will surely give you one. But it is your heart that will change, Splash. The women will not get younger and more beautiful and childless. You will grow and your tastes will change. You will find yourself liking spinach all of a sudden. =0) How many times have I fought with God only to come around to his view later and been filled with such perfect happiness that I thought I would burst! Have you ever experienced that, Flash? After a while you realize that he really does know best and he really does love you dearly and he really does have your best interest at heart. Do you know what I'm talking about? I think you do. The God who has spared not his own Son but sent him to suffer and die that you might live, will surely bless you in all things. He who gave the biggest blessing of all eternity, will certainly not be stingy with the little temporal blessings. He longs to bless you. His heart fairly bursts with longing to bless you. But he will never give you that which is not good for you. He is a perfect Father and he does not grow weary in training us. He will never give in to our whining for candy when he knows what we need is spinach. Instead he changes us so that we love spinach-- we come to see that it is good and healthy and then we even come to love the taste so much. We can't believe we ever wanted candy and we are so grateful that he kept working on us-- bringing us to perfection. sally sally@paraklesis.com |
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