Who says children can't make long-term decisions??
Submitted by Ringo on 2002-11-10 23:02:35, Sunday
|
I knew who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with when I was 14 years old. He didn't share my views, unfortunately, so we drifted apart when I told him how I felt. That still doesn't change that I would have stayed with him forever if he had returned my love. I am still a young man (22), and in love with another now. And yes, I would stay with him his whole life if he agreed to do the same. He is 13, almost the same age as I was the first time. He likes girls, so it is really a moot point, but if he came to me next year and said that he would love me for the rest of his life (including sexual things, but definately not limited to. I don't particularly like sex, and certainly don't seek it, but I do include it because it is one dimension of total commitment and love), how could I say that he is to young to decide such things in light of how I felt when I was 14? Chalk it up my to my naivety (sp?) and needy personality, if you will, but please don't question the validity of my feelings. I felt them, agonizingly so, and I still feel them. I am a smart man, my boy is a smart boy. Who says we don't know what we want? Age does not preclude wisdom. 7 or 8 years old maybe, but if I was ready at 14 what's to say that he won't be ready too? Ringo |
Follow ups: