Re: What's with this? (long, but heartfelt...)
Submitted by Kyle on February 01 1999 at 14:47:44
In reply to What's with this? (long, but heartfelt...) Submitted by Jeremy on February 01 1999 at 12:14:12
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Hi Jeremy, I certainly understand how even going to church can be distracting when you're a boy-lover. Like you, I still have a lot more questions than answers about how to reconcile these two drives- to love boys and to love God. In a better world, our sexualities would not be what they are. But it seems to me that it's possible to be too hard on ourselves. I don't want to say that our orientation is correct- but surely we need to put it in perspective. Do we give ourselves as much grief over our other sins? Gluttony, for example? Pride? Anger? Envy? It is unbiblical to say that homosexual pedophilia is moral- but it is illogical to make sex (especially mere fantasies) the one and only test of character. I get the sense that you have a lot of potential for really helping boys, if you can overcome your fears. I know from having been a non-Christian teenager (and therefore "practicing" boy-lover) that the opportunities for you to slip up will be much less than you might imagine in working with and around boys. You don't seem to be a person who would directly proposition a boy- and contrary to NAMBLA propaganda, there aren't too many boys around who are looking to be seduced. You may run into one someday who will cross the line from wanting to be hugged or cuddled, into something else. At that point you would face a real test of your will-power. But even that can usually be avoided by spending much of your time together in the vicinity of other adults. My own axiom is, be careful not to do anything harmful, but not so careful that you deprive boys who might need friendship and understanding of your company. |