Re: How can BL orientation be good?
Submitted by EnzoMatrix on October 11 1999 at 23:03:33
In reply to How can BL orientation be good? Submitted by Mark on October 10 1999 at 21:06:46
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You wrote: "We pray that they will go away, but they don't. When I tried to stop fantasizing and masterbating, I found that that was when my thoughts became obsessive, and I couldn't sleep at night. " I have had the same thing in my life. Every time I have tried to stop fantasizing and masturbating, I find the compulsion to do so even greater. I have found that spending time with boys in a healthy and good way (i.e. non-sexual). Lowers my craving for fantasizing and all that goes with it. During part of the year I have very little contact with boys, not by choice it is just how things usually work out. It is during that time that I have the most trouble with fantasizing. I don't call it trouble because I believe it is wrong, but because it can get to the point where it interferes with the rest of my life. During the part of the year that I have regular contact with boys, I don't have as much desire to fantasize. I don't have any really close relationships with boys, but I do get to spend time with some boys and show them God's love. Enzo |