There's a simple truth in life
Submitted by Triple Q on November 17 1999 at 23:00:47
In reply to Need love, not hate Submitted by KPK/PPC on November 17 1999 at 20:04:47
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No one can help someone until they are willing to help themselves. Your own post reflects the problems that you face: I am a old jaded deaf christian gay teenboy-lover with a lot of anger and hatreds for other... being deaf gay with tons of problems with christian churches that do hose me off and making me be angry and being spiteful with them for 10 years since.. I do believe by now they just don't exist. You see? Your own anger and hatred has caused you to cut yourself off from those who want to help you. they just don't exist. How can you expect or accept help from those who you are angry at or hate? You can't. Personally, I'm from the school that says that "if you want help, you have to know what it is that you need help for". It's obvious that you're asking for help from people who you yourself believes just don't exist. I'm not trying to criticize. I just think that you are looking for a quick fix to a very complicated problem. You want help from people who you don't want help from. You're angry and hate a people but taking it out on individuals. In my opinion, no one can help you but you. First, you have to be willing to forget the past. It's over and done with. Each dawning day is a new beginning. If you wake in the morning and only see clouds then the day is going to be rainy. If you wake up in the morning and the sun is shining bright and strong, then you will be able to make something of that day. Second, you have to be able to forgive those who have injured you in the past. Each new person that injures you is only piling more and more anger and hatred upon you. The load can be heavy (I know) but all it takes to lighten that load is to forgive others their ignorance. No one knows what it's like to be you, any more than anyone knows what it's like to be me. We just have to accept that people can sometimes be cruel even when they have no idea that they are being cruel. Third, you have to learn to accept the help that is offered. The final result is always going to be that you are the only one who can help you, but that doesn't mean that others cannot help you to better understand yourself so that you can help you. Much love and hope for a brighter tomorrow. |