The definitions defined
Submitted by F.O.D. on March 02 2000 at 19:17:54
In reply to The issues defined? Submitted by Forgiven on March 02 2000 at 18:13:27
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You're right, others will no doubt disagree ;). Though not in every point :) Allow me to pass through your barriers one by one: 1) Christian Theology has always argued that sex should be an expression of permanent relationship and Here I agree. a) a BL will inevitably lose his love for his YF when he passes beyond the BL's Age of Attraction Here I disagree. My love for my YFs has never been lost as they've grown older, not for a single one of them. On the contrary, if you listen to the complaints of most BLers, the problem very often is the boy starting to take in interest in girls rather than his AF, not one of the BL losing interest in the boy. "Age of Attraction" is a foreign construct. "Age of Initial Attraction" may be relevant, but no more than that. b) A child / teen is inherently unable to make a commitment to a permanent relationship A half-truth. I might accept that many or even most are not yet ready for a permanent commitment, but not that all of them are inherently incapable of it. The counterexamples disprove the notion. Dante fell in love with Beatrice at 8 years of age, and died with that same love in his heart. Francesco de Melzi remained Leonardo da Vinci's faithful companion. There are other counterexamples. 2) The imbalance of power between a boy and a man means that the relationship is inherently flawed Similar to 1b. What exactly is this "power imbalance"? The man's greater knowledge? His greater experience? What is there in these things which inherently prevents him from forming a mutually enriching relationship with a boy? On the contrary, that very experience may well be amongst the things the boy values most highly, that he can learn much from his friend. How does this make the relationship "flawed"? 3) Boys are not fixed in their orientation - to enter a gay relationship is likely to fix their orientation 'unnaturally'. Absolute rubbish! Tell that to any of the BLers I mentioned in 1a whose YFs have left them for some girl! 4) Gay sex is illegitimate in itself (I had to throw that one in for completeness :=) Here I again agree with you, that the gay side of boylove is a stumbling block. The question to ask here is whether the church is correct in teaching us that gay sex is always illegitimate, or whether they have been misinterpreting the Bible all these years. In summary, the barriers, as I see it, are whether gay relationships are themselves acceptable in general, and then whether a given boy has developed the maturity to take part in such a relationship. Regards :) F.O.D. |