I agree with Blackstone about the distinction between mollesting and boyloving.

There's not much information to really assess in these testimonies... it's difficult to really understand the dynamics of the relationship between Carson and his boy, but from what is described here the man seems to have been significanlty out of touch with how the boy was feeling about things.

I don't relate to this at all with my current yfs. My relationships are not sexual, but I have to say, boys are generally not hard to read. It's usually quite easy to see if a boy is feeling uncomfortable with something... and if your relationship is good then they should have no trouble saying "no" to you.

The boys in these testimonials seem to have had no idea about sex prior to the abuse that occured. I imagine that a boy who initiates stuff with their a/f would have a very different perspective on the whole thing.

I found these testimonies interesting but not particularly relevant to my own experience.

As to what they say about consent... well these boys were compliant... they went along without blowing the whistle because of their various reasons, and I have argued before a boy can give "concent" for reasons other than love or enjoyment of sex. These testimonies give a good example of that. But it would be foolish I think to call all concent the same as this. There are many, many reasons a boy could concent to sex and some he would regret and some he wouldn't.

Thanks for recording all that Eldad... very informative... I really appreciated the time you put in for us.

Blessings
Cat.