Hi guys,

Cat threw in that "Advice please" thread, it is long already so I start a new, somewhat related one.

I am mid-20, not married so far but think I am to marry within the next 1-2 years, maybe. My question is, how (or if) to tell a girl one day that you are a BL (the same time loving her, of course)?

I don't know what your wifes do say according to your boylove, whether it should be kept secret or how to introduce it without grieving her. Most people won't understand that Christians can be BLs. Difficult, but perhaps you have some advice how to handle it.

A more difficult question would even be to tell the church/assembly of your BL. Here I think I should keep it for myself (it is of no use for the others if they know it or not, they might just be horrified without real reason) - but a wife is a close thing for the whole life, so I don't know if holding up a lifetime secret is good then?

Thanks,

~ Little Tree ~