Attraction is very different to love though. I tend not to fall in love with the guys who really 'attract' me in a purely physical way, which suggests that there are things going on at many different levels. Man is nothing if not complex.
I still think, although I've raised this issue before here and found few who agreed, that an attraction to boys is partially an attraction to perfection: which can manifest itself on umpteen different levels in life.
Are you a perfectionist in other ways too? I know that I am and it has been a curse: particularly where my work was concerned, although another part of me tends to see it as my strongest point. [I have decided that this is just character flaw.]
I do think also that this urge/need/obsession with perfection - which relates to a need for beauty also (the two are so intertwined)- has an impact on one's need for a strong spiritual life . . . . although how this manifests itself undoubtedly varies greatly between 'perfectionist' people.
I wonder if the real point that you are making - which is an entirely valid one, because I understand it in my own life - is that the perfectionist 'type' can end up becoming excruciatingly superficial because he pursues perfection on a 'materialist' oversimplistic level - which is really where the need for a deepening spiritual life actually comes in.
[Perfectionism is actually encouraged in our 'superficial' materialistic society, which makes it harder still perhaps.]
The beauty of a boy is near perfection because he is as yet unsullied outwardly by the grime and mess which time gradually reveals in us.
I have been glued to the tv watching the tragedy unfold on Haiti and it astonishes me each time I see radiantly beautiful boys in the chaotic background: apparently untouched by it all. (The Haitian people are remarkably beautiful anyway I think.)
Of course they are not (untouched I mean), so the 'look' is superficial because it does not tell the whole truth. Only time can do that. Boys are still unmarked by time and the harder aspects of reality and in that way the boylover can be pursuing a dream which doesnt even really exist in the first place.
There is an interesting element in all this that just occurred to me. Society - particularly here in the west - tends to put children in a sort of sentimental cage because of their unmarked beauty and the way that this implies both innocence and perfection. I think this can be a strong influence on some of us. (I'm talking nuance here, rather than substance.)