I think you may have misread 'asb', mvan
Submitted by 194 on December 03 2000 11:20:13
In reply to I want to be 'we.' submitted by mvanhouten on December 02 2000 22:03:57
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In his post above, asb said that he believes that what he is looking for can only be supplied by an adult. Even if he takes your recommendation, and hangs around with gay youth, it still isn't going to provide what "asb" is looking for. He said: "You can never have that in a relationship with a boy, it's an adult thing". And it's not about being labeled, or being reminded that "most people are a little bit superior. "Asb" feels that the problem is *intrinsic* to the relationship with someone who is not an adult. "Don't absorb that guilt and sickness bullshit that people want to feed to you." Guilt is not abs's problem - here, at least. And there is nothing wrong with being able to feel a reasonable degree of guilt, either. If guilt hardly touched one, or guilt never touched one, that person would be a sociopath, and exhibit very arrogant behaviour. On another note, related more to your post than "asb"'s the *major* problem facing BLs is not relatively innoccuous "labelling" or a "we-are-slightly-holier-than-thou" superiority complex, both of which I personally would have no problem with, but fully-blown Primal Rage and Hate, of mysterious, but sexually-related, origin. I, personally, wouldn't be too anxious to follow your exhortations to become too "uppity", or "eeeeeeequal" with everyone else. "It is they who don't respect kids, not you" People may have different perceptions of how to best respect kids, depending on what they percieve as disrespectful to kids. Regards 194............ |
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