Nice response
Submitted by Jimf3 on December 06 2000 23:03:42
In reply to Nice response submitted by GCFboi on December 06 2000 22:15:56
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I really like the sentiment you've expressed in the post just above. I have to agree with almost everything you wrote. But I would encourage you to evaluate how you communicate. In your original post you talked about how smart people would tend to agree with your opinion. The obvious inference is that people who don't agree with your ideas about sexual fidelity are not smart. I'm glad you've clarified that but I'm sure you can understand how judgemental your original post came off. BTW, if you find sex without love to be empty and harmful to you, I might encourage you to try to understand that sex doesn't have to be a penultimate experience. It CAN just be fun and exciting - no strings attached, no expectations of deep fulfillment. You enjoy masturbation, yes? Why not enjoy it with a partner with whom you don't expect to have a life-long relationship? No expectations = no worries about being let down, eh? And who knows but something really nice might result. I met a really cool guy once who propositioned me (sort of) on the subway. I gave him my business card and we had a strictly sexual relationship for about a year. I met him once or twice a week during my lunch hour or after work. We had nice, but uninspiring sex. He called off the sex eventually but if he hadn't, I would have. We were both bored with it. In the meantime we had managed to become really great friends. We ended up spending much more time together AFTER we stopped having sex. But neither of us felt guilty about the sex at all. It was pretty fun for a while. Nor did that sex stop me from experiencing a truly intense, life changing relationship that began about two years after that - a relationship that continues to this day. Nor did it effect my life partnership with the man I'd been partnered with for almost a decade. In fact, the three of us spent some pretty good times together. My partner passed away from a long and debilitating illness a couple years later. He knew about the "subway man" and me and eventually came to know and like him. He also met my current lover just before he died and gave us both his blessing for our continued happiness. This was after he pretended not to notice that my current lover and I were having an "interlude" in the kitchen while my current lover was visiting us. Interpersonal relationships can be very cool, especially after removing senseless superstition and judgementalism from the mix. Jim |
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