One quick point...
Submitted by Sprite on December 13 2000 00:30:26
In reply to A Question of Accountability submitted by Triple Q on December 11 2000 22:09:48
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"Most pedophiles profess to have an "age of attraction" and readily admit that beyond that age the child is no longer attractive to them. ...a number of pedophiles... ...admit that, once the attraction's gone, so is there interest in the child. Where's the accountability in that?" I, as I may have mentioned before, am 19. My attractions are dependent on the person in question, but are roughly: Females 16 to 50 & Males 12 to 21. That just means that, between those ages, I may, depending on the person, find some one attractive... Now, I have often thought of how perfect my life would have been, if at age 12 or so, I had met another boy my age & we fell in love, and lived happily ever after... But, it begs the question: What about after he grows up?-After I grow up?... Would I suddenly not find him attractive once he lost his boyish good looks? Good question... I've noticed, as I've gone through life, that when you see some one every day, or nearly every day, you don't notice how much they've aged... And, if you truly love some one, you wouldn't really care how old they looked... It is often, if not always, of key importance that two people find each other attractive when they first meet. But, once you've met, if you fall in love, it becomes, year by year, less and less important that your lover look 'hot'... (For my IF statements below, I'm using man as adult and boy as child.) If a man stops caring for a boy after he becomes more mature, then he never really cared... It is possible for a man to love a boy, even have a sexual relationship with him, and still call it quits on the sex after the boy is too old... It's possible... But I'd say that it is, at least, equally possible that he was merely using the boy... Perhaps there isn't really anything wrong with having a sexual relationship with some one for a brief period of time, as long as you both want it, and both care for each other... But if a man truly cares for a boy he won't just abandon him after he is no longer sexual attracted to the boy. As I've said, anything we do by choice is done out of selfish desire... Even things done for others... I can't help greatly in defending those who are only looking for a temporary sex partner... Many people around here talk of having multiple boys whom they 'love'... I can only assume, and hope, that most of these people do not have sexual relationships with all of these boys... If one ever becomes another's lover, I believe that it is very important to be faithful to your lover... I, personally, am looking for true love... In whatever form I find it... Perhaps... Indeed, in all likelihood, my search is in vain... But I must continue... I hope... And, eventually, I may pray that my search is concluded soon... The loneliness grows, each time I allow myself to dwell on it... I have to wonder... How many years do I have, before it becomes despair? And how many more, after that, before I can bear it no more? But, I am a master at keeping myself entertained & distracted! I have to be... I shall set selfish goals for myself... And live for the next new toy... A bit of wisdom: Having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting; it is not logical but it is often true. Sprite. =") |
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