attraction vs behavior

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attraction vs behavior

Submitted by Splash! on January 11 2001 23:50:38
In reply to Hey, Ford submitted by Jimf3 on January 11 2001 21:42:35

I agree with the CBLF FAQ that says: Christian Boylove Forum participants believe that a distinction must be made between feelings of attraction (which are not chosen) and behavior (for which one must be held responsible).

I have always believed that the thought (or temptation) is not a sin (since it is not chosen), but it is what we do with that thought which makes it a sin.

If a good-looking young boy walks in front of me and I notice him -- that is one thing. Even if I find him sexually attractive -- it is not sin. But it's what I choose to do that makes it sin. Do I go back to my business, or do I stop and admire the boy, maybe taking a glance at certain areas of his body? What is going on in my mind when I stop to admire the boy? This is sin. Jesus has told us not to lust after or envy things that are not ours -- it is called committing adultery in our hearts.

There are two ways to check whether something is a sin to you or not: 1) it has to be chosen AND 2) it has to be chosen out of one's own selfish desire. Selfish desire is what makes boylust different from boylove. I am not loving a boy if I am also selfishly lusting after the boy. That's not love (1 Cor 13).

I know this is a big issue that has been hotly discussed in the past. I only wanted to emphasize the "attraction vs behavior" part of the argument.

~Splash*

Follow ups:

You GLANCE at his body and you sin? - Jimf3 January 12 2001 00:26:11 (14)
- if you CHOOSE to glance at his BUTT/CROTCH, yeah - Splash! January 12 2001 00:51:11 (13)
  - What, you feel flustered? - Jimf3 January 12 2001 00:56:07 (12)
    - not yet -- but you keep trying - Splash! January 12 2001 01:19:11 (11)
      - You're just spouting nonsense - Jimf3 January 12 2001 01:42:16 (10)
        
        what are we trying to accomplish - Splash! January 12 2001 01:57:13 (9)
        
        Spiritually damnable - Jimf3 January 12 2001 02:00:28 (8)
        
        trying to be frutiful - Splash! January 12 2001 02:24:48 (7)
        
        You're losing it - Jimf3 January 12 2001 07:13:10 (6)
        
        Re: You're losing it - hyper92 January 12 2001 11:32:00 (5)
        
        Earth calling - Jimf3 January 12 2001 12:28:27 (4)
        
        Yo idiot! - Once a Boy January 12 2001 18:02:29 (3)
        
        That has nothing to do with this thread at all - Jimf3 January 12 2001 18:52:04 (2)
        
        I started this thread without the focus of sex - Once a Boy January 12 2001 19:18:35 (1)
        
        Yes, and I commented on a limited aspect of that - Jimf3 January 12 2001 19:33:54 (0)

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