How do I ask without blowing my cover?
Submitted by JackWade on January 9 2002 05:13:17
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Hi all, I want to find out how the parents feel about me showing their son's physical affection. I mean they don't say anything but one thing they do that bothers me is I will be over visiting and I will sit on the floor where they are made to sit. This family has 5 children. 2 boys and 3 girls. All ages from 6 to 13. I will say to one of the boys or girls (Because I try as hard as I can to not show "Favoritism"), "Come here and sit with me." Their dad is one of those type of people that are "Computer wipped" if ya know what I mean! (Can't stop messing with a 'puter!) Anyway, They will first look at mom or dad and then if they don't speak, they will come over. I had that fixed. I am very trusted and the mom and dad had a talk with the kids that My word is like God, Basically. If I ask one for something or to do something. They better do it in other words. But thats not the goal of this message. It seems like when the child comes over and sits beside me, at some point in time, the child ends up in my lap. And not because I encouraged it either. Although if they ask to sit on my lap I just about can't resist that 'cause I love them boys so much. I just want to have their attention all the time I'm there. My thing is this: It appears that the dad and mom (Mostly the Dad) see it as not necsessarily as affection but "Mawling" (Or climbing on, or being in ones face.) When they see this "Mawling", as they call it, they make the child sit away from me. And that just hurts me. But the next time a even a little while later the child will be right back beside me and they don't say a word.? Confusing, I can't tell what they are thinking. I want to know what they think about that part of my relationship with their kids. I want to be able to bring it up in conversation without giving them the wrong "Idea" Or raise suspision. I thought about phrazing it like this, "How do you feel about me being affectionate towards your kids? Does it bother you or is it okay?I'm wondering what your opinion is because I like it and to tell you the truth, I look forward to it when I come over. It appears that your kids just love it. If they didn't, then it would be my guess that they'd wouldn't come near me" What am I missing.... JackWade |
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