Re: When is boysex okay? (in response to Nate)
Submitted by Ben on March 12 2002 20:13:38
In reply to When is boysex okay? (in response to Nate) submitted by Splash! on March 12 2002 08:04:01
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Hi Splash, This is an incredible post. I didn't have time to read the thread that you were referring to below (took a while just to get through what you wrote) but I think that you have alot of practical wisdom here and appropriate biblical application. For most of my life I never even considered being sexual with a boy. It was so foreign to my upbringing and what I knew was appropriate, it never even crossed my mind. When I came across the BL community 6 or so years ago, my view slowly began to change, though I still wasn't intending to go out and find some young boy to have sex with me. It is only after having become a Christian that I have strong feelings against it. Those comments being made, I'd like to respond to your question of love versus sex/lust/attraction. I have always believed that sexual desire and love are inextricably linked to each other. This is not to say of course that there isn't love without sex, for many of us love parents, children and friends in non-sexual ways. But there is another element to love, one which is connected to those who we are attracted to which creates a fullness of emotion unmatched anywhere else. I truly believe that I love boys and that I want the best for them. The ONLY reason that I am not sexual with them is because I believe it is damaging to them. In the case of boys, the fact that I am attracted to them does not negate the reality of the love and caring. I exercise restraint because I do not want to hurt them. I'm not really sure that it is possible to demand a dichotomy where either you LOVE BOYS or you are ATTRACTED TO BOYS. I hope that I am making sense (I don't feel like I am :-). You are not alone. Love, Ben |
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