the eroticisation of love
Submitted by F.O.D. on March 27 2002 07:50:05
In reply to OK why the title boylovers? submitted by sally on March 24 2002 12:43:20
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Hi Sally, nice to have you come visit us. I wrote a welcome to you before but my computer ate it. *sigh* It is not OK for me love men. It is not OK for me to affirm this general love for men. I have one man to love and he alone may I love in this way. No offense, but you are demonstrating a pretty sick view of love here. You are claiming that to love someone means to love them sexually, which is rubbish. You are denying the love of friendship, or of brotherhood of of any other kind of non-marital love. When we talk about loving a boy, having agreed we won't be loving him sexually, we are talking about just that - love. Looking out for his best interests. Helping him grow into a mature man. Continuing to help him once he has become a mature man. Getting involved in the life of his family, his parents, his sisters. Being ready to listen when he wants to speak. Seeing he has enough resources and vision to excel at his education. Encouraging him when he is ready to start relating to a girlfriend (yes, that can hurt us personally, but love is all about overcoming the hurts, and continuing to love). In that vein... And should you not pray for the boys you think you have charge over and pray that God will give them their own fathers to nurture them? Absolutely. Absolutely. Although we may dream or wish we could share a romantic love with a boy, and don't get that wish fulfilled, don't confuse that situation with the real-life gritty love full of raised voices, laughing smiles, bruised foreheads, hugs, disappointments, broken fishing lines, long hours enjoying one anothers' company and abiding friendship, that is the reality of this "boy love". Regards, Fod |
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