Re: Why?
Submitted by Genghis on 2003-03-11 11:29:47, Tuesday
In reply to Why? submitted by Bach on 2003-03-11 10:09:20, Tuesday
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I was attracted to girls up until 12th grade. I had crushes on a few and even asked a couple out. For reasons I do not know of, my feelings gradually changed into attraction to young boys by freshman year of college. Definitely not by choice, though. In a way it's more "plausible" for me to change than some other BLs because I have had hetero attractions before. It's true that everyone has secrets, and I asked many people the exact same question you're asking, Bach. I say to them, why do you think it was not right of me to keep this a secret from B and his parents? After all, the intentions were good. They tell me that this is not just "any" secret, this is one that has the potential to cause *huge* harm and hurt. It affects B's family directly. Even if I say I would never do anything, and true, nothing did happen in the past half-year, does not matter. I hid this thing from them. The reason I didn't tell them was because I knew they would react this way. I agree with you Bach. But I understand why they think their way too. Some of my friends say, if I'm not honest, aren't I in a small way being selfish? I don't know. It's like saying, the girl knows if she asks her mom if she could have candy, the mom would say no, so the girl takes it without asking. The difference between us and this analogy, is that I'm an adult, not a little girl. I know what's good for me and for B. I know the consequences if I step out of line. Yes, we're being held to a higher standard than other people. Maybe we should feel honored about that? God bless all, Genghis |
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