Re: My fantasy
Submitted by Ben on April 13 1999 at 07:52:22
In reply to My fantasy Submitted by Mark on April 12 1999 at 23:21:05
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Mark, I have often thought about how life might be different if, when I first started to feel an attraction to sixth grade boys, there had been some guidance and intervention. I was never molested to my knowledge so, obviously, I agree with the fact that pedophilia is not necessarily caused by being molested. I do think that people are born with certain tendencies towards homosexuality and pedophilia and those may or may not be reinforced during puberty. The problem is that I didn't know what was going on with myself for a very long time. By the time I could have verbalized the fact that I was sexually attracted to young boys, there was little chance of redirecting my orientation. (3) to provide models of satisfying, productive lives for pedophiles, and (4) to provide a referral service for pedophiles who seek therapy to deal with their orientation. However, I certainly would have liked, and still would like to find answers to 3. Something tells me that only God will help me find this answer. With respect to 4, I was in therapy for years, trying to change my orientation. I certainly was able to reduce the frequency of fantasy about boys. But I was still attracted to them, still mesmerized by their laughs, their smiles and their demeanors. I do not believe that you can change your orientation (if it is really an orientation, not just a behavior) but I do believe that you can find a way to live your life as a pedophile and to follow God. You are not alone. 
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