Re: Or in this case, the non-siner?
Submitted by Val. on October 30 1999 at 20:34:29
In reply to Or in this case, the non-siner? Submitted by d on October 29 1999 at 15:51:42
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This is to all of you who responded to my message. For one thing, my friend is not online so I can tell you about this and he will not know. I don't actually know what his reaction would be but, if you guys can help me, I can help him. Anyway, what makes this so very hard is that I happen to love this man and it was through my own son that I found out about some inappropriate "touching" that happened. It was my son who was touched. This was the first time anyone ever found out that this man had this demon to deal with. Now that someone knows, he has had to finally admit to himself that he has this problem. I guess as long as he thought nobody knew then he didn't have to admit it to himself. So, nothing technically illegal has happened. To the best of my knowledge, he has not crossed the line over to pedophilia. I am forgiving and so is my son,who was 11 at the time it happened. My son holds no ill will. My reaction to all of this has been how to help someone I love with this awful burden. He does not live in my house. It has lead me to the internet and ultimately to this site. How do you guys deal with this? How can I help my friend keep from thinking he is evil and worthless. I keep telling him that this demon is not all of who he is. It's all of the goodness in him that attracted me in the first place. It is this good that I choose to see. But, how do I help him with the dark side? What works? Thanks, Val. |