Wow - and I thought I had problems
Submitted by forgiven on December 16 1999 at 16:16:04
In reply to how i fell Submitted by lonlyrider on December 15 1999 at 03:17:49
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Welcome to the forum - I hope that just being able to share with others the pain of what you're going through will help Be certain that you have done something wonderful in that boy's life - you have released from the Hell that he was in from his dad shouting at him for everything You have a right to mourn - to be sad about the lost relationship. Although it is a result of your own choice, it is still a major loss from your life - as with any other most important relationship. Beyond that it gets far more complex and controversial, depending crucially upon one's belief about the legitimacy of such relationships. There are those of us here that consider them appropriate, there are those who don't. We debate - but it is a discussion based on shared experience of pain and fear that you know lots about. I hold the opposite view to Jules - the verses that he quotes do not point to sexualised relationships in my opinion - and on the whole I agree with the 'disability' model - the sexualisation of the relationships with boys is a result of being in some way damaged. In due course I will share some of the basis for that claim - but I need to do more preparation to present it clearly! Till then - God cares about you, and I hope I can promise that many readers of this will try to be there for you as much as we can |