I want to question some of the preconceptions that I hear out there:

1. Adults who want to sex kids do it because it makes them feel powerful.

I've never really got that myself. Having power in sex means nothing to me really. I don't want to be stronger than a boy in my bed... that idea don't do anything for me.

I believe my sexual desire wants an equal partner not a subordinated one. And in fact, the idea that in reality a boy partner may feel intimidated or subordinated actually turns me OFF the idea of sexing.

In my best sexual fantasy I'm the subordinated one being ordered around by a dominating boy who knows just what he wants and how he wants it.

Is this really just a feminist-agenda myth like I think it is?

2. People who look at porn and/or sexually fantasise gradually desensitise themselves sexually so that they need harder and harder images/fantasies to satisfy their need for a sexual fix.

If this is true... then how is manogamy possible? How can one person engaging sexually with their wife/husband, be happy with routine sexing. Wouldn't they need to do more and more outlandish/adventurous sex acts to achieve the same level of satisfaction that they had at the start of their marriage with just plain old old-school bonking??

Why is it with couples that sex becomes something steady and practiced and comfortable yet with porn and fantasy it apparently degenerates into this mega, psychopathy-inducing addiction???

Isn't this just a scare tactic used to keep us away from naughty thoughts? Just because some psychopath followed a path from fantasy to porn to stalking to rape... doesn't mean everyone who fantasises or looks at porn is on that path.... does it??? Couldn't it be that there was something already wrong in that guy's life that twisted the fantasies and porn right from the start?
Surely if all the guys that fantasised and looked at porn ended up like this no one would be safe from being raped.

3. If a male doesn't learn to master his sexuality he's in danger because 95% of sex crime is committed by males.

Yes... 95% of sex crime might be committed by males... but 95% of males don't commit sex crimes!!!
How can you advise the majority of a group based on the behaviour of a minority of it?

Christian males are running about feeling guilty for being sexual beings with sexual desires and sexual thoughts when they are actually living upright and moral lives. This is ridiculous.

Where is the "well done fellows!".... where is the "keep up the good work boys!" Instead all we hear is the head bowed, casterated Christian man saying sorry for the 27 times he's committed "adultery in the heart" today. Hello? Did you ever intend to go after that person you were attracted to? No? So what did you do wrong????? You found them attractive.... HEAVEN FORBID!

Frustrated at peoples ignorance and unsubstantiated theorys that get treated like medical/psychological truths... Blessings
Cat.