A Note on...
Submitted by Sprite on November 13 2000 02:55:54
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A note on relationships with boys: Some seem to look on a relationship with a boy as some what one-sided. That is to say that it is all up to the adult as to where the relationship goes, what kind of a relationship it turns into... Some seem to think that it is entirely the adult's responsibility to insure that it 'doesn't go to far', or that it is the adult's fault if it does... What about the boy? Doesn't his opinion count? Everybody seems to assume that his limited experience & 'obvious' lack of wisdom nullify his abilities & rights as an individual... Well, as some one who hasn't been an adult all that long, and can still remember being a boy, I'd like to state my opinion on the subject. 1. I was to some degree sexually aware by the time I was six. And NO, it was not due to abuse... 2. When I was eight I made my own decision not to engage in certain activities with a boy four years my senior. I know that I made the right decision, but sometimes I regret it any way, or rather that it wasn't a different situation... But the point is that at eight years of age, I was able to make serious decisions about what I wanted and didn't want to do. 3. Although for sometime I probably didn't know all of the consequences of such decisions, I would say that by the time I was thirteen I was able to make any choices that would have been there to be made in a relationship. Boys/Children make all kinds of choices everyday. Many are capable of making adult decisions long before they are recognized as adults. |
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