What I mean.
Submitted by Nate on October 25 2001 01:06:55
In reply to accountability submitted by kiowas on October 23 2001 12:29:34
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Since I use the word a lot, I'll have a go at explaining it. For me, being accountable to others means that I will be real and honest about whats going on in my life with some people that I trust enough to call me "to account" for my behavior. In this sense, it is a voluntary action - which runs entirely contrary to my American independence. Because this board is anonymous and people really can't check up on me, the sense of the word is modified somewhat in that accountability only works to the degree that I am honest about what is going on. Do you feel so insecure about your sexual feelings you dont trust yourself and need other people to watch you? Truthfully? Yeah, it helps. When I was completely alone with my sexual feelings for boys and excluded by my "friends", it was easy for me to feel like a real pervert. At times, the self-hate would play into my sexual fantasies causing things to spiral downward into some really sick stuff. It was scary, and dangerous. The cure was to share my feelings with others. I found out that I am not alone, and not totally weird. I received some perspective by listening to others tell about how they deal with the feelings. The end result has been peace, a better understanding of myself, and greater safety in my relationships with my young friends. So accountability is something that I welcome, something that I seek in my life. All I needed was a group of people that I could trust to be real and honest with me when I share my feelings. I think that I have found that here at CBLF. Thanks to all of you that make it happen!, Nate |
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