When young friends grow old
Submitted by tigris on January 26 2002 22:08:34
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Hey guys, I have a couple of questions. For those of you who have had YF's who have become teenagers or adults, I'm wondering what happens to your relationship with them. First, do you remain in contact with your young friends? What kind of relationship do you have with them? Do they want to remain friends with you? Are you still motivated to remain friends with him, or has the relationship fizzled. Second, what do they think of you when they look back and remember the way that you treated them? I'm thinking specifically of my relationship with Kenny. He's 11, and while he puts up this tough guy image, he's actually a very cuddly, affectionate kid with me when we're together, away from his friends. He loves to sit right next to me and watch movies, and he'll grab my hand or lay his head on my lap, etc. Many 11 year olds have outgrown that, but he still likes to do that. Those of you who have had YF's who have been like that, do they ever think back and wonder why you were so physically affectionate with them? I guess this part of my question stems from paranoia. I know that my relationship with Kenny is pure and I have done nothing wrong or immoral. I often wonder, though, if he will look back and think that I was strange for wanting to spend so much time with him? I don't want him five years down the road to remember me and start to wonder about me and my motives. Does anyone have any experience with this kind of situation? What kind of reception do you get from them? Are you remembered fondly or are you remembered suspiciously and misunderstood? tigris |
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