Re: To Ron
Submitted by Ron on 2003-02-17 01:48:45, Monday
In reply to To Ron submitted by Mavrick JR on 2003-02-16 23:32:02, Sunday
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Hello Mavrick, Jr I was deeply moved by your words in defense of your Dad (whom I've written an E-mail) and of the members of this group. You write very well and stated your issues with me with clarity and rare sensitivity. I can see that you love your Dad and that this is a mutal loving relationship you two have, as father and son. I appreciate the fact that your tone remained respectful even though you're upset with me or at least w ith my views. I believe sincerely that your Dad is a good and decent man who loves you and the kids with whom he works with total devotion and integrity. I have nothing but respect for him. To answer your most important concern..i.e., Am I accusing the members of this group of being child rapists? I do not..and I mean do NOT..believe that members of this forum are rapists or child molesters. I don't believe any of them are acting upon their sexual urges, although I don't know about their past histories. I'm certain though that at the present none are active pedophiles. You've confirmed in your own words what I stated earlier and I'll restate again. Christianity and this forum is providing them with the external disciplines and restraints they lack internally not to act upon their sexual attraction to boys. For this, I'm grateful that such forums and support systems as this exit. Now as for my continual postings in this group to stress my point. I tend (and I'm not sure this is a good thing) to get into passionate and heated arguments over issues I feel strongly about. It just tends to be my temperament, often erupting from gut feelings, and this tends to make me appear too harsh and uncompromising. When I say such things as I don't want to "understand" pedophiles, I want them locked up should they act on their impulses and hurt kids, that's my honest gut feeling. If I express an unwillingness to accept the notion that pedophiles should be allowed to work intimately with children, this seems to me to be just common sense. And there's just no way I'll give up any ground on these positions. You did ask a perfectly legitimate question, am I arguing here to convince myself I'm something I can't accept or deal with? [Sorry to have to paraphrase your words. You write better than I, but I don't have them in front of me as I write.] I have to be completely honest with you especially, as I try to be with all others, because I can tell you have remarkable character. No, I'm not a repressed pedophile, if that's what indeed you're wondering. No, to be truthful..and the others are gonna love this..true confession time..My method sometimes gets in the way of my message..my temperament overwhelms my better judgement. Then we have the break down in communication we have here between myself and the forum members. I need to learn self-control myself. That's why I told your Dad I'm cooling it. I'm getting too wordy again and probably boring you by now. Let me conclude by clarifying my position on "Boylove." The term "boylove" will not be found in any dictionary. It is a buzzword used by advocacy groups such as NAMBLA to advance their agenda to legitimize pedophilia or what they term "Man-Boy Love" by actively seeking to change the laws and social policy which govern how we choose to protect our children from sexual abuse. What "boylovers" as the term is commonly used by NAMBLA and similar groups have in common is a sexual attraction to boys. And so this is what defines them as "boylovers" as opposed to adults who simply love and care for children. "Boylove" is then clinically speaking, without the bogus and invented benign phraseology of NAMBLA, homosexual pedophilia. That is, adult males who are sexually attracted to young boys. Whether the CHRISTIAN BOYLOVE FORUM is aware of it or not, in using the term "Boylove" they are helping to advance the NAMBLA agenda. I feel this is morally wrong however unintended or misguided the judgement in using this misleading term. That's all. I hope I've answered all your questions. One more, lest I forget: I don't work with kids on any professional level. I told your Dad I won't be posting here any further. Well, give me a cooling off period and time to think over the things I've read in here and I may come back with a much better approach. Bye for now. --Ron |
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