Re: Boys you know
Submitted by Ben on March 16 1999 at 20:47:55
In reply to Re: Boys you know Submitted by John Guard on March 14 1999 at 19:25:37
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John - Sorry to be replying so late since lots of threads have now evolved from our discussion (which is an EXCELLENT one IMHO). In a way you are agreeing with my point by being bothered by the objectifying of boys in the pictures that you were downloading. By my fantasizing about boys I love, I am not objectifying them, but including my feelings of passion for them, without ever subjecting them to something that is likely to be harmful. On the other hand, I also was losing control of my life when I found that the internet was loaded with pictures (legal ones in my case...but others of course have not been so lucky). I was spending hours every night viewing the next shirtless actors page or reading sexy stories of boyish escapades. Strangely, almost immediately after I began to include God into my life, the importance of those things dropped dramatically. The fact that I was establishing new friendships, that I felt confidence to involve boys in my life, that my Christian friend was making me a part of his family, so that I could enjoy his kids (the twins) not lust after them has highlighted what was becoming a problem in my life. But I am a man, and when my sexual desires DO become strong, I have to believe that fanatasing passionately about boys that I love is part of who I am. My love for boys and that sexuality IMO is like a tree in the garden. The tree is beautiful and it is good. But if I let it get too big, let the leaves get to broad, it will cast a shadow over the vegetables. I need to keep my tree trimmed, to let it grow, but to let it share it's place among the other inhabitants of the garden. You are not alone. Ben |