Re: What do you guys think of this?

Hi comforted - Thanks for your post. My view on consentual sex between men and boys has gone back and forth over the past few years as I've opened my mind first to the BL community and then later to the gospel. Here are a couple of replies: I would revise your groupings a bit. All people who are attracted to children are pedophiles by definition. This does NOT make them 'child molesters'. I would group pedophiles into those who love boys and those who abuse them. Within the group of those who love boys, some do sexual things and some do not. This has less to do with how much they love boys and more to do with other factors such as upbringing, religion, personal experience and their own moral convictions. I am in the group of those who love boys and, although my love for boys has never changed, my view on sex with them has changed (note that when for a time I thought that consentual sex was okay, I never actually acted upon that conviction). I believe that sex with boys is wrong for two reasons: a) It is a homosexual relationship which is rather clearly stated as an unacceptable practice in the bible. b) I believe that boys, in their emerging sexuality can fine any kind of sexual experience very appealing. A large number whose first sexual experiences are with other males, may develop a pattern of homosexual encounters which become so exciting, they may never develop their own potential heterosexuality. c) Having become sexual at a very young age myself (11 years old) I can attest to the addictive quality that sex had for me and continues to have. This addiction (fortunately in my case to masterbation) has caused tremendous damage in my life. One final comment. To love someone in all of the goosebump, weak kneed ways is part of natural attraction which is not at all spoken against in the bible. What IS spoken against is lust, which I believe comes from our own mind moving feelings of admiration from our heart to our groin. I can love my parents, my siblings and my friends, give them birthday presents and Christmas presents and not feel attraction to them. I think that you CAN learn to love without sex. HONESTLY, I have not learned to do it successfully yet but I am praying and I am trying. You are not alone. Ben