Sex with a boy
Submitted by ChoirBoy on June 17 2000 11:43:59
In reply to Romans 10:9 submitted by AKA on June 17 2000 05:06:16
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AKA, I understand your hesitance to accept purely biblically based arguments without any further justification. Here are my reasons why I think sex between an adult and a boy (or any child) is wrong. And I won't quote the Bible once for you. You keep talking about sex as a way of expressing yourself, as not having the same potential of harm as other acts such as murder and the like. You think sex with a boy is a good thing, because it makes you feel good, and you assume that it makes the boy feel good. I would pose this to you, however, in any adult-child relationsip, there is inherently an inbalanced distribution of wisdom, experience, and authority. The power of suggestion, even subconcious suggestion, is unbeliveably strong, and the willingness of a child to please an authority figure (which any adult undeniably is to a child, whether you think so or not) is just as strong. There is a friend of mine who was physically and sexually abused by his first set of foster parents after he was taken away from his real parents (for reasons so horrible I won't discuss them). His foster father would take him aside when he was around 10 or 11 and rape him. And even with this horrible experience, he was terribly upset that when it came down to it his foster parents didn't want to adopt him. Even knowing how horribly and violently they treated him all the time, he still had a desire to be loved by them and to please them, and he was willing to endure even physical and sexual abuse to make that happen. That being said, I must also say that sex is not a casual thing. If you've ever had sex (which I assume you have), you know how powerful the feelings associated with it are. I'm not just talking about the ecstatic throws of orgasm, either. I'm talking about the intense love and connection felt with the other person involved, as well. There is something about sex that touches the soul. Just look at how many so-called casual sexual relationships often end with the most vilolent and bitter hatred between the partners. This is because playing with fire is dangerous, as is toying around with such powerful forces, emotions, and feelings as sex arouses. Precisely because of this, sex should be, in my opinion, a powerful means of expressing love between two people and never JUST used for physical gratification. Now, imagine all that power and emotion in the head of an 11 year old boy. Add to that the nearly insurmountable desire implanted in him to please and gain love and approval from those in authority, namely adults. Now, say you, an adult, go to him and want to have sex with him. You think of it as just a casual expression and extension of sexual attraction maybe, but it may not be something he has experienced before. He likes the fact that some adult, you, is paying attention to him and seems to like him. That makes him feel good about himself, and it makes him want to please you so that you will keep paying attention to him and not leave him. This may not be a conscious or deliberate desire on his part, but it is there none the less. What he doesn't know, but you do, is that you want to have sex with him precisely because he is an 11 year old boy, not because of who he really is. Sure, you tell yourself that you love him perhaps, that you want to share and express your love with him through sex, that having sex with him will only be good and beneficial for him. But the simple truth is, once he is no longer an 11 year old boy, you will no longer be attracted to him sexually, and you will not spend much time with him, and in essence he will be abandoned by you. You don't think of it that way; you think that it is moving on perhaps. You see it as an amiable breakup. But he sees it as a betrayal, and this may have far-reaching consequences in his future. By having sex with him, you have taken a piece of his soul that he offered to you fully expecting a piece of yours in return, but he didn't recieve that, and now he feels empty and alone. I love boys too much to bear the thought of a boy hurt like that, and that is why I think that sex with a boy or any child is wrong. You may not feel it yourself, but there is no doubt that that child will feel it, and you may not be attentive enough to notice, or you may just blindly overlook it to make yourself feel better about things. So, that is my non-Biblical explanation of why sex between an adult and a child is wrong. Was that a more intelligent answer, or will you blindly stick to your mantra that "sex with boys is a good thing" with no intelligent justification of your own. Simply asserting an opinion does not make an argument. By doing that, you are no better than someone who blindly quotes scripture to prove their points without using any reasoning of their own. ChoirBoy |
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