'To be exposed before your peers...'

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'To be exposed before your peers...'

Submitted by Forgiven on August 11 2001 03:09:39

I've talked in the past about some of the marginally unfortunate things that I have said at work; well another occurred today. There is a very cute 20 year old who could easily pass for 15 (he's got a girlfriend, they've been together for a long time, that's not the issue!). He comes to work on a motorcycle - and today had got himself a 'skin tight' leather suit for wearing on it. At the end of the day mention was made of this, and I joined in the general chorus of 'Let's see you in it'... but one of my colleagues who has made some pointed comments about me in the past threw in 'yes but you want to see him in it for a different reason'. I came out with a half hearted 'huh' (I'm very bad at thinking on my feet) and the conversation moved on. But it left me feeling very vulnerable and exposed; what does he know / think he knows / believe. And this might go somewhere unfortunate - though quite how is unclear - but having been outed over 20 years ago (as vanilla gay) at the age of 15 to a homophobic school, I'm not a fan of being 'Out' publically. Thoeretically there isn't a problem - I work for a large organisation with an anti-harrassment policy etc etc - but I really don't want to try it out.

A cautionary tale for us all!!

Follow ups:

MABUS - TheHolyWordOfTheLord August 14 2001 10:00:15 (9)
- Re: MABUS - TheHolyWordOfTheLord August 14 2001 10:06:22 (8)
  - June 20... - F.O.D. August 15 2001 09:35:46 (5)
    - yeah! - Splash! August 16 2001 00:12:04 (4)
      - Happy Birthday :) - F.O.D. August 22 2001 09:16:33 (3)
        
        THANKS - Splash! August 23 2001 04:12:19 (2)
        
        that's OK - F.O.D. August 23 2001 09:30:44 (1)
        
        funny :) ...thanks n/t - Splash! August 23 2001 11:24:53 (0)
  - And what do you think my nick is about? - Forgiven August 14 2001 13:40:37 (0)
  - You're right.... I confess my sin. - Nate August 14 2001 10:50:40 (0)
Hi Forgiven! - Nate August 11 2001 14:58:17 (2)
- Thank you for the gentle rebuke - Forgiven August 12 2001 16:23:04 (1)
  - No worries.... - Nate August 12 2001 19:49:30 (0)
One way to handle it... - d August 11 2001 13:49:51 (0)
not so bad, if your peers are a tangle of boys... - F.O.D. August 11 2001 12:07:14 (9)
- Whoa, hold on..... - Nate August 11 2001 14:15:02 (6)
  - sounds fair - F.O.D. August 11 2001 23:11:41 (4)
    - Yeah, why? - Nate August 12 2001 00:39:45 (2)
      - when the boy you like becomes a man - Splash! August 12 2001 01:17:57 (1)
        
        that sounds much more positive - F.O.D. August 12 2001 08:56:00 (0)
    - Re: sounds fair - Splash! August 12 2001 00:05:58 (0)
  - ...and I like tangle, so much more appropriate(nt) - Nate August 11 2001 14:19:15 (0)
- actually the correct term is 'gaggle' - Scott August 11 2001 12:58:27 (1)
  - Happy You Are Here... - Andy August 11 2001 15:06:06 (0)
Re: About email - Altima August 11 2001 10:40:06 (0)

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