Don't jump to conclusions
Submitted by Forgiven on March 24 2002 16:56:20
In reply to OK why the title boylovers? submitted by sally on March 24 2002 12:43:20
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God has ordained that parents nurture children not male friends of the family who have sexual desires for the boys. I've an ex YF, now 27, who has just had a baby son. He describes me has his mentor for his last years in High School. At the time he didn't know that I was a BL (though he is aware now) and there was never a sexual component to our relationship. I will affirm to my dying day that was a God given relationship. My current YFs - for lack of a better title - are now 20 and 21, and have been a part of my life for the past 6 years. They also know I am a BL, and accept and value me as a friend. Again I have NO doubt that those relationships were arranged by God to the benefit of both me and them. God has ordained that parents nurture children is a highly cultural specific statement; the traditional pattern of family life is an extended family where the nurture of children occurs in a far wider context than the modern nuclear family that is such an outstanding failure in modern Western societies. We need to learn what it is to gain the support of non family members in our care of children. There are two ways to avoid the risk of sexual abuse - one is to prevent your kids from ever leaving the house, the other is to ensure that they know how to say 'no' when they feel an action is inappropriate - and that the adults they mix with know that they will say 'no'. I have no doubt that the gains that a child has from having a variety of adults in their lives is worth the risk of things going wrong (which is not to minimise the risks - just to try to emphasis what is being lost as a result of the paranoia that is now present). And of course remember that the vast majority of sexual abuse of kids occurs at the hands of family members, not the 'wandering ped' anyway.... |
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