Something on my mind
Submitted by drew on 2002-09-30 08:23:48, Monday
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My yf "D" is 11yo and not doing well in school this year. His mom says that when report cards come out if his grades are not up to par that she is going to ground him from seeing all his friends including me, until his grades come up. What is bothering me is that it has come to my attention that my ex-wife has called D's mom and portrayed me in a bad light. With this knowledge I feel that D's mom is using his school grades as a way to keep me away from him. I feel this way because she knows that I help him with his homework so why would you keep the person away that is offering a helping hand unless you feel he is doing or would do something inappropriate? Just a few weeks ago I was feeling some tention in mine and D's friendship and I asked him what was wrong, at first he said "nothing" but after a little coaxing he finally admitted that his mom thinks we are spending to much time together. What makes no sense to me is about 8 months ago I expressed to D's mom how much I loved him and told her that if anything ever happened to her I would fight to get him. I have even talked to her and told her that even though D is not my son by birth he is my son by God's grace. I have even named him as one of the beneficiaries on my life insurance, she knows this also. Since day one I have tried to help her to raise him by backing her with the punishment she bestows and also financially by buying him school clothes and I have even offered to pay for a tutor to help with his grades. I have been nothing but a father figure to him and that is all I want to be. I don't understand, if she knows how much he means to me, I have told her both in words and shown her in deeds, why would she even consider keeping me out of his life? Love in Christ, drew |
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