Total honesty is NOT a sham

Bach, I disagree with your post. I think that G is right, to an extent. In the church that I serve we have five bls that I know of, and perhaps more that have not come forward as of yet. There are two of them that work with the youth group on a regular basis. In dealing with them I have found that they are much more comfortable with me than anyone else in the church. Why? Because they were honest with me from the beginning. They told me of thier orientation and I have not held that against them. If they want to work with the youth group, fine, but they must adbide by the rules that all the other adult sponsers do. They understand this and willingly follow the rules, better than some of the other sponsers do. Becasue of this total honesty with me I know I can trust them. If they had hidden thier orentation and it was discovered later, I would have been put in the postioin of making them leave thier sponsership pistions. And that would have been a shame. They have been a real blessing to the kids and to me, often helping in times that no one else would. Yes, we all have our secerts to hide. No one will deny that. But in this situation, making the truth known from the beginning would have been better. Personally, and this is my opinion, I think that G is right. If he had told B's parents about his orentation, the total relationship would have been differant. That might have been better for G. If he had not gotten so close to B, he would be in so much pain and hurting right now. I had talked to G the other day on the phone and when he told me that he was going to try to change and disregard his bl orentation, I told him that I did not agree with him, but if that was his decission, I would SUPPORT him fully. But I also told him to be sure it was what God wanted him to, not what he wanted to do. Regardsless of our personal feeling of his choice, we should support him in it. Many posters here say that the "normal" people are cutting them down, but now, when G makes a chioce of this kind, is there support? Sexuality is not a switch, you are tight about that. But then I do not recall seeing G "switch" before. It is more difficult to make the choice and the change. When G was faced with his bl attrations being made known, he was basically attacked and blocked. Now that he has made a choice, he is again under attack. Why? I would rather see him being supported and loved than have his choice questioned. Agape applies here.