I understand where you are coming from
Submitted by Drifter on 2002-12-7 12:29:27, Saturday
In reply to Christianity, PedoSexuality, and Empiricism [long] submitted by PlatonicDieci on 2002-12-4 13:11:02, Wednesday
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Its easy to postulate about the sinfulness and inevitable harm that follows a sexual relationship between man and boy. Its easy to do so from a distance, using fictional characters and hypothetical scenarios. I used to do the same thing. But when you observe or live through the real thing, your world changes. Your old beleifs are shattered. Here are two happy individuals enjoying a profound love. Two individuals at peace with themselves and with each other, happily joking and laughing and sharing. All of a sudden you realize that such happiness cannot possibly be wrong. Then people say 'well, their happy now, but in the future that can create psychological problems' but then you see the child grown up, graduating from school, marrying, etc. and still being best friends with his af...and once again that beleif is shot. I know what you mean, and Im glad you posted here because several times I have tried to figure out if there is anyone else here who has been in such a situation and who has found a way to reconcile the reality that the relationships are not harmful with the beleif that harmful or not, they are still sinful. I did not find such people here though (and I havent gotten around to reading all the replies to your post yet, so maybe I will now). My personal view is the following. God makes it clear throughout the bible in the old and new testament, specially in Paul's writings, that sex is something reserved for husband and wife. In one verse Paul says that it is better to marry than to burn in lust (I wont dig up the scripture unless you ask me to because I assume you are familiar with it). He says that this is a concession. If there is nothing wrong with sex outside of marriage, then why would he have said this? why would he need to make this concession? Obviously, there is something sinful about sharing sex outside of marriage. The conclusion that I have reached is that sex outside of marriage is sinful because God says so. I always hated when my parents would say 'because I say so'...but guess what? they always had a good reason, a reason perhaps too complex for my limited understanding. I think the same thing applies to God and the things he tells us are sinful. Sex outside of marriage is sinful because God tells us it is...but the reason for this may well be beyond our comprehension. Of course I am often tempted to ask..'why?' but it isnt something I have a right to ask, God knows better than I do, and if he says not to do something, then I must obey even if it makes no sense to me. You are right...the reality of such relationships is not the way people make it out to be. It is not a traumatic experience causing life long scars, it isnt something that ruins a boys sexual identity for ever or causes great emotional stress. Only through observing or living through a real relationship can you realize this. But the fact remains, God doesnt want us to do it...so we must obey his wishes even if we dont like or understand them. e-mail: webnomad@ziplip.com url: http://www.fpc.net/sites/drifter/ |
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