Hi Blackstone,

I could go to some forum, probably even that very same forum, and find anecdotes from people who disagree with you and believe that sexual identity is hardwired at birth.

Am I right that you believe sexual identity is hardwired at birth?

I don't disagree that childhood sexual encounters can lead to sexual confusion. But then, so can the stereotypical college experimentation encounter. Ultimately however, confusion will not change a person's sexual orientation and their true orientation is bound to force its way out just like it did for all of us who tricked ourselves into believing we were straight in an attempt to bury our pedophilia.

The problem with this, as I see it, is how does one define "sexual confusion" (which you say is possible) and "change of orientation" (which you say is not)? It seems to me, it's all in the eye of the beholder.

For example, I believe that God created me (and everyone else) to be heterosexual, and my BL desires (and complete lack of heterosexual desires) is simply a "confusion" of my God-given sexuality. [A pretty major confusion, but a confusion none the less.] Now understand, I don't try and fool myself that I don't have BL desires. I'm realistic about all that. I know these desires probably won't change in my remaining years on this earth (barring some sort of miracle, which I'm not expecting). I'm fine with that. But, it seems to me, in order to fit the model you posed, I'd have to believe that BL is my true identity, hardwired from birth, and that any change to that (at any age) would have been impossible. Sorry, I just don't believe that.

What is your opinion about people who consider themselves "bi"? Is "bi" their true identity, hardwired from birth, or are they "heterosexual with homosexual confusion" or "homosexual with heterosexual confusion"?

What about someone who was abused as a child, claims to be "bi" (51% hetero; 49% homo), and claims their homosexual attractions are the result of their abuse? Would you say they are truly "bi", and the abuse had no affect, or that they are truly heterosexual, and the abuse caused their homosexual confusion?

Thoughts?

Blessings,
Rainboy