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Submitted by GraceComesFirst on November 26 2000 22:21:53
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Hi everyone! I am new to posting to this group, but I have been reading it for several years. So I hope you will not consider me "uninformed". (It's been about 10 months since I last visited the site, so forgive me if I am repeating things you've heard before.) I am not a boylover, at least, not when it comes to prepubesent boys. I guess I do like older teenage boys, but I consider myself gay, since I am only in my mid-20s. I am also a Christian, always have been, always will be. Having read the Bible a lot, and prayed much, and read this website and others for gay youth and boylovers, and XY magazine, and whatnot, let me just say: I applaud your courage and your faith. You are doing the right thing here. When I was younger, I was sexually abused by two different older men, both of whom I met as a youth in church. They were both in church leadership positions. It has taken me a long time to work through the issues that the abuse caused in my life. But I have forgiven those men; why? Because they are as human as I am, and I have no right to judge anyone. I have come to the conclusion that boylove is not the same as pedophilia, not just because you say so, but because I have thought about it and prayed about it. I think those of you who have the courage to be boylovers, honestly, and not pedophiles (I define the difference to be, the one does not act on lustful temptations, the other does)--I think you must be among the bravest people on earth. I know, because I suffered from a sexual addiction after I was abused myself. It took me a while to get into recovery from that, and although I was not addicted to sex with boys (rather with guys my own age), it was still the same basic idea. (And even to those who have hurt children, I say, it is never too late to repent and change. God can forgive ANYTHING! There is no sin greater than the crucifixion, and he forgave that!) So please, never give up. God loves you. Do you know why God loves both boys and boylovers? Because God loves his own Son, Jesus. So of course being a boylover is not a sin. It is, in fact, one of the most special blessings that God can give to anyone. To understand the love of God for his own boy, Jesus, at such an intuitive level, is a blessing, not a curse. Please just use your sexuality for good and not for evil. It is REALLY too bad that the world hates you, but the world is supposed to hate ALL Christians. You will be rewarded greatly in heaven for your patient endurance, which has built up your faith to a much deeper level than most other Christians that I know. Your faith and sexuality are not at odds. God does not make mistakes, and there is no such thing as a sexual orientation that is evil, in and of itself. Surely, the ancient Greeks understood this. Too bad the modern world is so lost, with regards to matters of sexuality. The persecution that we young gays face is only slightly less than what you have to endure. (And believe me, I am not the only young gay man in the world who is working on your behalf to change this culture's attitudes--we are not totally vain and self-centered!!!) Keep the faith! Walk in love, and do not fear. Love boys, but PLEASE, don't abuse us. Personally, I would be neither offended nor hurt if a boylover wanted to be my friend, but I would only ask the he not try to force me to do anything. That is all those other guys did to me. I actually liked them, when we were just friends, before the sex. So please, keep that in mind. That is the only rule, I think, that God would have you follow. (And of course, be careful to protect yourself from the bigots out there!) Peace, GraceComesFirst |
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