Dakota, wow!... strong words.

I tend to agree with your basic sentiments that sex with boys is to be completely avoided and that there is a pro-sex propaganda that we need to watch out for.

But I think the language of your post is a little too far swung in the direction of the anti-pedo propaganda.

I think these stories are generally stories of forced, coerced or stolen sex and in that respect they are only as relevant to us as Christian BLs as we are tempted to engage in such activity. I know that I for one am not. I am not going to identify myself with these teachers any more than to say that I am sexaully attracted to boys like they seem to have been. To me that's like a straight guy saying the only thing he has in common with a rapist is that he's attracted to women.

And to say that whenever a boylover becomes sexual with a boy he becomes a mollester is simply ridiculous to me. This is the very view that causes all that social trauma to what may other wise have been a loving or pleasurable experience for some boys. One of my counsellors said many people who experieced sex as children really have a hard time admitting how pleasurable it was because it's so socially taboo to admit that. People are taught that they have been mollested and this CONFLICTS with their actual perceptions of the experience and they start telling people what they want to hear and if they try believing it then they become even more traumatised.

To say that something may cause serious harm is not enough reason to completely avoid it or right it off as always wrong. If it were, we'd never drive cars, go on sailing trips or camping trips or light a fire.. or get into an aeroplane... or whatever. If you try and use the "it may cause terrible harm" arguement the pro-sexers will simply pull out their multitude of examples and testimonials of where it hasn't and dismiss you.

We need something more than this. We need to be careful not to be swept up in the propoganda of either side.
Especially as Christians we should know better than anyone that moralising is useless against the indulgence of the flesh (Col 3).
We don't boy sex because God says that sex is only for marriage. It doesn't have to be anymore complex than that. That way... even if it could be proved that sex in x y z circumstances was not "harmful" or was "loving" it wouldn't matter... it would still be forbidden.

Blessings
Cat.